So I am truly struggling with how to move forward. The youngest, 19 yrs old, is a Junior in High School. Our only son left at home. He has had his own struggles with his two older brothers leaving home. The change of moving in with his grandparents.
School has obviously been a struggle. He can NOT get himself up in the morning..he has been late to school more times than we can count. No matter what we threaten with or take away he just doesn't get it. He will do well for a couple days and then right back to old pattern. Obvioulsy his school work is suffering. Again not much we do affects that at all.
He isn't a child any more so it's really hard to try and enforce anything.
Since having my first breakdown I know I haven't been the mother or person I once was. I feel in part I have let him down. I do not think that is an excuse for him to not do his part to be successful in life.
My children have a horrible knack for cutting me to the quik by saying the most horrible things to me. Of course never to my face. That would NEVER be tolerated. Through texts and facebook and messages. They truly break my heart and I don't know that they have a clue how hurtful their words are to me.
I grew up in an abusive home with an alcoholic father and would NEVER talk to my mother the way these kids have to me. My father gets it back when he gives it to me because I refuse to be a victim. I just can't understand their motivation or what they are thinking.
Text today from youngest " why do u care now all of the sudden after five years or so you only had two sons ummm plz explain". I refuse to cry...got mad. Called cell company and reported his phone missing...sooo NO cell phone until I get an apology and he gets some responsibility.
This coming from the son who I dedicated the first 5 yrs of his life too. He was born 9 weeks early...I fought to give him life and keep him healthy! UGHHHHHH! I just want to scream!
It's hard to tolerate a child not doing what you expect of them when you expect so little.
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